101 Essays

 Chapter 1: 10 Things emotionally intelligent people do not Do

okay So first all what do you mean by the term "emotionally intelligent"
(Sorry my BEd degree makes me sound like a science teacher right now)

Back in my childhood I used to consider myself extremly emotionally intelligent. Why you may ask. That is because I somehow learnt how to control my emotions. Or rather i should say I learnt how to hide them to an extent where even I didn't realize how was I actually feeling
for me all the situations winning a prize,falling in love, eating my favourite pastry, studying for my maths exam felt almost equal.

Later in my college days when I actually started reading about stuff like emotions,human mind,universe,feelings . I realized I was applying the formula all wrong. Controlling and demeaning my emotions was making me feel empty and not emotionally intelligent.
emotionally intelligent people aren't the ones who knows how to "control" their emotions but who know how to handle them and accept them with dignity without acting upon them instantly.

This somehow started making way more sense to me.
We often find us judging ourselves for the kind of emotions and thoughts we have
without realizing this is the most natural thing that happens to us. We humans have this super power of thoughts, but we can't help but start associating ourselves with our thoughts and emotions. As if it is who we actually are. 


We are not our thoughts. I learnt it after reading almost 100 books and watching almost 1000 videos.
WE ARE NOT OUR THOUGHTS
it's hard for me to accept this cz I have been believing in my thoughts up till now
BUT
as a part of my habit
I have started referring to my thoughts as a third party name
I call it "Latpat"
it helped me dissociate with them
Now it's just a random person that keeps talking rubbish to me . it isn't me !!!!
problem solved



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